Does the idea of a bloke taking charge during sex excite you?

	There’s nothing better than a bloke being a bit rough with you in bed… Alex

Sara: I think that there's something attractive about a bad boy, the bloke who has a bit of arrogance in bed. I don't like complete and utter arseholes - people who are completely rebellious for the sake of it - but I don't like people who play by the rules, either...
Alex: I'm definitely the same - I love a bad boy! And I love bad boys with sexy accents! I really go for blokes with either American or Essex accents.

What is it that attracts girls to more risque sex sessions?
S: It must be because it's dangerous, and you think, 'Ooh - what could happen?' Anything off limits is always more exciting!
A: Absolutely. It's a challenge when you know there's something that you shouldn't have, because then you want it...

Do you like blokes who are domineering?
A: I like it when a guy is in control - that's a really big turn on. I want a guy that is self-assured - if he's going to touch me, then he should touch me and not think about it too much. He should be forward about it. Girls find that a real turn on.
S: It's nice when they tease you, too. I think when they kiss your neck gently before nibbling and biting, that can be really nice.
A: When you're really horny and getting into it, there's nothing better than a bloke being a bit rough with you in bed!
S: Yeah, I like being manhandled by a big, strong guy.

So blokes should do more of this, then?
S: Yeah! Personally, I'm not into shy guys.I want to see a bit of confidence, otherwise it just gets dull. Or if they are fumbling around it can be awkward.
A: I'm not a shy person either, so if the boy doesn't take control, then it makes me feel like I'm running the show, and that's not really what a girl wants - at least not all the time. I don't want to feel like I'm taking advantage of the bloke I'm in bed with. It's not right!
S: True. But at the same time I don't think that blokes should try and be something they're not.
A: Yeah, if there's someone really quiet and shy, and all of a sudden he puts on an alpha-male macho routine in bed, then he'd be trying too hard. Blokes should just be themselves, but have the confidence in bed to go for it a bit more.
S: Yes, there's nothing wrong with a bit of a grope and a feel!
A: I agree - I think that's good. I always find a physically forward guy more attractive than a guy who just strokes my arm or something. I'm never going to come like that!

What's your most memorable experience of take-charge sex?
A: It was in an office. My boss said, 'Come up to my office,' and I said, 'OK!' Next thing, he'd pushed me up on to his desk and we really went for it. It was really spontaneous and it felt really naughty. Papers were flying everywhere, just like in a film. I felt a bit bad, because there was paperwork underneath me when we were doing it.
S: Me and this one guy went to a dog-walking area, and I had a face-in-the-grass session. Which was actually really nice!